The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Revised and Updated: Surviving Through and Recovering from the Five Stages That Accompany the Loss of Love

Amazing, insightful and feels like months worth of intense therapy in one read! I actually cried a couple of times reading this as it really does dig deep and and the exercises are amazing, I think you need to make sure you keep doing them and keep revisiting the book to make this effective which i am doing! Honestly the most effective and helpful book I think I’ve read! I feel like I fully understand myself and my bad relationship patterns that keep repeating over and over! I wish I found this years ago after my first heartbreak it would have saved me so much further hurt and wasted time!!!

During one of the worst times of my life this book really helped me through. Describing how I was feeling and the reasons why. It gave me tools to deal with the overwhelming feelings of shattering when I felt like I was close to breaking apart, it has given me tools to help me heal and tools to look to the future with a positive outlook. The title breaks my heart almost every time I read it. But it is the perfect title. I bought this book 6 months ago. And I can honestly say I'm in a better place. This book really helped. As did incredible friends and family of course. But this book was the practical advice I needed to help with my inner demons.If you are going through a break up or have been through one, if you have ever felt abandoned in your life, this book is for you.

This book was recommended to me by a friend. It is everything she said and more. I read it avidly and found real enlightenment. I had several 'ah hah' moments when things I had been ruminating on for years became explained in a clear and logical way. If you are struggling with emotions, reeling from being abandoned in any way, by a partner or parent, then this book will help.

I waited for the new edition before buying this book (recommended by my counsellor). It's not available for Kindle yet and when I asked the publisher why, I got a BS answer.Nonetheless, for those of us who have been left or abandonned, this book is excellent. The author, an academic, explains that she too was left after 20 years. It happens. The examples she uses of her clients was especially useful. If you're struggling to cope with having lost a relationship you didn't want to lose, this book is a must read. TN.

A really useful book which I found helped with a current situation, but also allowed me to uncover older, underlying issues.Strongly recommend.

A spectacular read already and not even half way through it! The words and sentences used somehow is an exact true identity of how one feels when going through each of the stages of abandonment. This book will also hugely benefit someone who knows of a loved one suffering from loss/abandonment, and to help them understand their suffering on a deeper personal level rather than putting it down to depression.

I have attended Susan's workshop on abandonment and have now finished this wonderful book. Susan is an absolute genius. This book is for absolutely EVERYONE who has suffered abandonment.

Excellent knowledge & wisdom. Best book I have read on childhood wounds. I would highly recommend. Thanks Susan.

I have only read the first chapter, and it is jampacked with incredible knowledge surrounding abandonment, and the effects that has on your body, and how to find healing and cope. I’m not a big reader, but I can’t wait to finish this and I’m thankful I bought it.

I haven't started the work yet as I am reading another book but I looked through this and am very excited to start the work.

For me the first book who really acknowledge the strong feelings after abandonment, after reading many books, I recognize a lot even the symptoms of trauma. The Akeru is helpful and powerful. I am not native English, sometimes it hard ro read because there not always used ordinary terms.

Dopo aver letto tanti libri sui problemi nelle relazioni, focalizzati prevalentemente sui tratti narcisistici di partner problematici, finalmente ho scoperto questo libro che non si preoccupa minimamente di spiegare le cause dell'abbandono, ma analizza in profondità quali sono i sentimenti, gli stati d'animo e le sensazioni di coloro che vengono abbandonati. Il lettore rivive con maggiore consapevolezza tutte le fasi del lutto che segue ogni abbandono e riesce a capire con maggiore lucidità i sentimenti che lui stesso ha provato nelle diverse fasi che seguono il distacco. L'empatia con cui viene descritta ognuna delle cinque fasi dell'elaborazione del lutto porta il lettore ad una più profonda accettazione dei propri sentimenti e la partecipazione autentica dell'autrice dona quasi un senso di sollievo al lettore che si sente compreso e non vede condannati alcuni suoi sentimenti negativi dal quale suo malgrado non riesce a liberarsi.Per ogni fase del lutto viene proposta un'attività che, oltre a facilitare la guarigione, dovrebbe regalare speranza ed entusiasmo per intraprendere il cammino di evoluzione spirituale ed emotiva che dovrebbe portare il lettore ad una più alta consapevolezza di sé e quindi ad un livello maggiore di realizzazione del proprio sé più autentico. Questa evoluzione sarebbe un risvolto positivo dell'abbandono che, se correttamente elaborato, potrebbe venir considerato come un'opportunità di crescita personale.Ciò che mi ha colpito particolarmente è la sensibilità con cui l'autrice sottolinea il modo profondamente diverso con cui il contesto sociale tratta coloro che perdono un congiunto per un lutto e coloro che invece vengono abbandonati, magari dopo molti anni di matrimonio o convivenza. Per questi ultimi non esiste un momento di riconoscimento pubblico del loro dolore, quale può essere il momento del funerale per un vedovo/a, e spesso il contesto sociale si ritrae da situazioni di dissidio familiare, mentre nel caso della vedovanza l'appoggio morale e materiale è inscritto nei codici morali delle società da millenni, tanto è vero che la condizione di vedovo/a nella storia è sempre stata soggetta a particolari norme di comportamento e veniva resa ben visibile a tutti da un particolare tipo di abbigliamento.Non so quanto conforto possa dare un libro nei primi tempi successivi all'abbandono, quando il dolore e lo sconcerto sono ancora troppo forti, ma per chi è determinato a superare lo sconvolgimento che l'abbandono ha portato nella sua vita emotiva e magari dopo anni non c'è ancora riuscito questo libro può essere un aiuto.

No other book has changed my life the way this one did. After a bad breakup a few years ago, I couldn't figure out WHY I couldn't move on and why it had affected me so much. Not only does this book normalize those feelings (which therapists had shamed me for in the past. "Just move on, etc."), it also includes small bits of scientific explanation of why your body and brain respond the way they do to a loss/abandonment. Also includes excerpts from real people who have gone through abandonment, and it makes you realize your experience isn't singular, it's a universal, human experience. Then she goes even further and gives you multiple things you can do on a daily basis to heal and come out on the other side even stronger. She does all of this using a very simple, easy to understand way of writing. Highly, highly recommend.