The Compassion Code: How to Say the Right Thing When the Wrong Thing Happens

I strongly recommend everyone buy this book. I refer to it all the time as a reminder about the importance of compassion for myself and others. It has also helped me learn what to say during difficult times.Every time I read this book, I learn something new.

This is a well-balanced, well-written, and thoughtful guide to expressing compassion for ourselves and for others who are suffering from losses of any kind. As Laura points out, many of us are often at a loss for what to say when others lose a loved one to death, lose a job, experience a break up, or any number of other situations in which it seems nearly impossible to find the appropriate language to show empathy. In her book, she clearly guides the reader through a variety of situations and different ways to respond. Instead of prescribing specific words, she focuses on working through and carefully considering one's reactions and feelings as they pertain to the person suffering. Whether you are a counselor or therapist, priest or rabbi, teacher or coach, or simply someone who would like to be more supportive of a family member or friend in need of compassion, this book will prove to be both valuable and comforting.

Things happen in life - some good and some bad. This book gives us tools to understand and more importantly how to say things or not say something that show compassion. Laura Jack has written a great guideline book explaining what compassion is and why being compassionate is important. Recently while standing in the deli line at my local grocery store, a woman started a conversation with how hard it is to decide what to serve for the holiday. She mentioned that her husband was ill and it would probably be his last Christmas. I just listened as she needed to talk. I felt that I had put on my Compassion Hat as Laura suggests. I highly recommend this book and if fact have given it as gifts - not because the person needed compassion, but to give them tools to handle what life brings to them.

I met Laura years ago in Thailand and instantly felt her compassion as a person. I consider myself to be compassionate but learned so much about how to create boundaries and not feel the need to “fix” them but rather to just show up to acknowledge their pain. It was so helpful to reframe and see the griever as not broken but broken hearted.

Such a great book for anyone interested in opening their hearts and living a life filled with more positivity. The lessons contained in this book span many topics, such as the way we deal with our complex emotions in the age of social media (one take-away I appreciated was to be inspired by, rather than jealous of, others' success), communicating with your significant other, or being supportive of a friend that is grieving a loss. The author shares a great mix of personal anecdotes, sample scenarios, and practice exercises that cause the reader to reflect upon their own experiences and think about how they might utilize the tools in this book to approach various situations in life. I think anyone who reads this book will walk away a better person in some way- I would highly recommend it!

Oh, how I want everyone to read this book! Laura Jack has written this gem with remarkable sensitivity, kindness, and brilliance, and I honestly believe that every person could learn and grow with immense positivity from reading it. Even the most compassionate of people will take away something of value; the rest will have a new perspective they will surely be grateful for. The Compassion Code touched me in a way that no other book has, and I believe it will do the same for every reader who embraces its pages of love and wisdom.—Stacey Aaronson, publishing partner and founder of The Book Doctor Is In

This book is like the answer to all of your questions- even the ones you didn't know you had. Makes the struggles of being an adult make so much sense. Like a manual for life and how to treat people and perhaps even, why they treat you a particular way, and how to deal with them. There are not enough wonderful things that I can say about this book. The perfect read for anyone and everyone in your life. Don't just buy one because if you're getting one for yourself, you're going to want to share with your friends and vice versa!

The Compassion Code should be required reading for everyone! Not only is it an easy-to-follow guide for learning how to have compassion for others, it's a blueprint for learning how to treat ourselves with more kindness and compassion. The book is filled with relatable stories and examples of compassion in action, along with numerous tips, tools and ideas that will help anyone looking to strengthen their compassion muscle. Thank you Laura Jack for creating a guide I can refer to again and again when trying to come up with the right words to help people through difficult times!

Though everyone of us have suffered difficult times in our lives when it comes to assisting others we seem to get blocked Laura has such an incredible gift to speak about the harder things in life and be able to show others the real meaning of compassion and how we can apply itto be the best versions of ourselves for family and friends.

The compassion code is an important, thoughtful guide for anyone that wants to understand and integrate more compassion into their life. Laura's book not only focuses on how to better practice compassion towards others but really goes through the foundation of practicing compassion with yourself. As a professional that works with people in crisis, this book was a great reminder that practicing compassion is just that, something we need to practice with intention. This book is an easy read and takes you through many different exercises that can make reading the book more than just a read... the exercises help you reflect upon your own story, do a personal emotional inventory and has practical tools to help you learn to practice compassion in all areas of your life.

How many wars could have been avoided if we all just had the skill of knowing what to say when emotions run high and fear, grief and anger are in the room. Laura Jack weave a simple and elegant framework for creating amazing possibility in the midst of massive breakdown.

Its so important to say the right words at the right time. I think everyone of anyone can use some tips from this book. Congratulations to Laura for writing a lovely meaningful book!

I love this book and adore Laura Jack. This is a must read and even a must read twice. Thanks Laura for putting so much of your heart into this book.